There’s a Maroon 5 song titled Moves like Jagger that I love. Yes, I know… the lyrics are a bit much but God knows my heart! It’s something about the beat that causes me to immediately want to get up and dance! While listening to it one day, a few thoughts crossed my mind. How can getting ‘moves’ help someone be a better person? Do I want moves like Jagger too or can I come up with my own? And if I get moves like Jagger did that mean I had to wear skinny jeans like him? Needless to say, my mind was all over the place. Once I focused, I decided on creating my own moves… because wearing skinny jeans while dancing on a stage just isn’t for me. My moves would be for women. My fellow heroines. Who like me, are working on becoming their most authentic self.
After careful consideration, I came up with The Heroine Moves. I want you to reflect on these moves and incorporate them into your everyday life if they inspire you.
1. Ground Zero
I like to think of this move as getting to the root of who you are in order to move to who God is calling you to be. This is a life practice that any Heroine from age 25 to 95 can apply. While not always easy, Ground Zero is all about allowing ourselves the opportunity to heal from the past in order to set goals for our future. This is a critical starting point to achieving success in anything we set out to do. When we are healed from past trauma, we show up in the world as our most authentic self. We have peace and live our life filled with joy. It does not mean that we don’t have trials, but what it DOES mean is that when trials come, we face them from a place of wholeness and understanding that God will work all things out for our good. A portion of this process can be done by writing, journaling, or making a vision board. For some people, Ground Zero may include a therapist or a safe place friend where you can talk things through. Why yes, I believe that you can have both Jesus and therapy to heal! Who am I to judge your journey? We all have a past, some harder than others, but we get to decide how we show up for the rest of our life. Broken and sad or whole and restored. The choice is yours.
2. Anticipate Your Success
Take time to anticipate your healing coming to pass. Anticipate what you need to do in order be successful in achieving the goals you set at Ground Zero. Ask God for direction and actively envision how you will approach your healing and what you will do once it is achieved! What will life look like for you? Can you see it? When we anticipate, we set our expectations on the hope that they will come to pass. Proverbs 23:18 reads:
Surely there is a future, and your hope will not be cut off.
So I am encouraging you to anticipate your success and believe with all that is within you that you will succeed.
3. Monitor the Meaningless
Be mindful of time spent on frivolous things. Social Media, The Real Housewives of Anywhere… We can get lost in all things social media and the dark hole of reality television. I have been guilty of scrolling through my news feed and before I know it, I’ve spent thirty minutes reading about other people’s lives… instead of nurturing my own inner heroine. I am also guilty of binge watching reality shows. I have a close friend that always says, “Stop putting that trash into your spirit!’. I haven’t told her she’s right yet, because most of the time I am rushing her off the telephone so that I can watch my shows!! So here goes. Melody, you are right.
The bible also reminds us to guard our ears and our eyes. Let’s just say for me this is still a work in progress! I have gotten much better, but I’m not where I want to be… Gizelle and Kandi still need me on Sunday nights. Just kidding!! Barely…
On a more serious note, when we monitor the time spent on frivolous things, we have more time to work on ourselves. That time can be used to converse with God, enjoy your family, go to the gym, take a nice walk, or read a book to learn something you did not know. A real book… where you have to turn pages made of paper. You can start slowly by deleting a few hours of the meaningless… and that can eventually turn into deleting days! Take baby steps and remember with God all things are possible!! Even a life sans social media.
4. Choose YOU
I demand that you begin to choose YOU.
It’s just something about women that makes it hard for us to choose ourselves first. I don’t know if it’s the ingrained nurturing spirit we have that pushes us to take care of everything and everyone else but ourselves; or whether some of us are just people pleasers and have not mastered the art of saying no. Whatever it is, it needs to stop. Now as a working wife and mother, I know that there are some things we MUST do, but I am beginning to choose ME too! I have learned to say no to certain events that take me away from my family. I try to leave work, at work! I also take what I call Me Moments. A Me Moment is time away from my loving husband and son… Not because they irk me, but because I have to make time to nurture and love on Kim. The woman I was before I became a wife and mother and the woman I am becoming during my journey with my husband and son. If I am not centered, I cannot give them the best of me. If I am stressed, tired, frustrated, and overwhelmed, that is the energy I bring into my home. Believe me, I’ve done it… and when my spirit is off, my entire house is off.
Proverbs 31:10-12 reads:
A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life.
I don’t know about you, but I choose to bring good into my house, and one way I can do that is to remember to choose ME.
5. Prioritize what’s Important
When you prioritize what’s important to you, you are in essence managing your time based on what has the highest precedence in your life. It is asking yourself, “Is this a necessary event/activity/meeting, or can it be put off to a later date?” before agreeing to anything. Your time is special and cannot be stored or saved for later use. When you prioritize what’s important, you make conscious choices concerning your time and who you spend it with, thus allowing you to do things that are valuable to you. You become more productive and it can also help alleviate the stress that comes along with trying to do too much.
6. Connect To the Source
This is the most important Heroine Move, even though it is my last one. You must make time to connect with God. Whether it’s first thing in the morning in your prayer closet, or after you’ve put the kids to bed at night when the house is quiet. You have to CONNECT. Whether done by spending time outside in nature or through meditation… You must CONNECT.
Think of your cell phone. It has to be charged in order to work effectively. If it loses its charge, it will die. I mean completely SHUT DOWN. Think about how panicked we get when we reach ten percent battery life and we’ve left our charger at home. We go from person to person at work asking if they have a charger we may borrow. We begin to feel disconnected and stressed that we will miss something if we let the cell phone die. I want us to become more aware that when we do not connect with the Father, that can happen to our spirit man as well. No one wants to walk around all day with a dead phone OR a dead spirit! You better charge your spirit man up honey!!!
When we take time to connect with the Father, we get the strength we need to make it through our day. We need Him.
One of my favorite scriptures is John 15:5. It states:
I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing.
This reminds me daily that everything I have and everything I accomplish is because He allows it. I cannot do anything outside of Him. My connection with Him is what sustains me and keeps Kim Reed at bay… Because Kimberly Davis is a much nicer person.
So take me by the hand and I’ll show youuuuu. Believe in yourself and I know you can move like a heroine, you can move like a heroine, you can mooooooooooove like a heroineeeee!
If you did not sing that in the tune of the song I mentioned in the beginning of this blog post, what I am saying in layman’s terms is as follows:
I can help you practice the Heroine Moves. Make them your own. Allow yourself the opportunity to become your most authentic self. You matter and you’re worth it!
From one heroine to another,